He can only ejaculate by self stimulation and that is often a struggle
“My husband and I have a loving relationship and an average sex life, however, he has never been able to ejaculate from having sex with me. He can only ejaculate by self stimulation and that is often a struggle. Do you have any ideas to help with this issue?”
Ejaculating quickly is the most common ejaculation issue facing most men, but not being able to ejaculate when they want to does affect some men. Here are a few ideas to help a man ejaculate more quickly.
Sexual Intercourse Positions
There are many sexual intercourse positions that help build sexual arousal very quickly. These positions are ideal for men who are slow to ejaculate.
You can view photo illustrations of a large number of sexual intercourse positions at our blog. Sexual Intercourse Positions
Postures that combine opposites (rear entry, head to feet, mouth to groin) build erotic excitement and generate a high sexual charge rapidly. These positions are often referred to as «quickies.» All opposite positions are useful for any man with difficulty getting and maintaining an erection, or difficulty ejaculating when they want to, because they are so arousing so fast. All opposite positions are to be avoided by the man who ejaculates prematurely.
Here are a few examples of opposites quickie sexual intercourse positions.
- Tantra & Kama Sutra Sex Positions –”Opposites”
- Tantra & Kama Sutra Sex Positions – Opposites –”Gorilla”
- Tantra & Kama Sutra Sex Positions – Opposites-“See Saw”
- Tantra & Kama Sutra Sex Positions – Opposites -“Backslide”
- Standing quickie sexual intercourse positions.
- Tantra & Kama Sutra Sex Positions Standing – «Clinging To The Tree»
- Tantra & Kama Sutra Sex Positions – Standing
- Also, many men find the woman on top positions quickly arousing.
- Kama Sutra Sexual Intercourse Positions – Woman On Top –”Sleeping Dragon”
- Kama Sutra Sexual Intercourse Positions – Woman On Top Varaiations
Generally fast and deep thrusting will help a man ejaculate quickly. Slow and shallow thrusting help a man delay ejaculation.
Size of Lingam and Yoni
The tighter the fit between lingam (penis) and yoni (vagina) the more stimulated the penis will be and the quicker a man will ejaculate. The female can create a tighter fit for her man by keeping her legs flat on the bed and also holding her legs somewhat closed. The more the lady’s legs are raised and the wider they are spread, the more open the vagina will be, offering a looser fit during intercourse. It would be especially important for the woman to hold her legs closer together if the lingam is small relative to the size of the yoni. It would be better for the woman to hold her legs up and apart if the lingam is large relative to the yoni.
You may also experiment with products that stimulate the penis toward ejaculation more quickly. Here is an example of a topical spray for this purpose.
A topical spray that excites and stimulates the male and female sex organs. Spray two doses onto the head of the penis before having sex.
Be sure to use visualization and focused attention to assist in achieving ejaculation. Beware of thinking about what you don’t want, e. g., difficulty ejaculating when you want to. Instead, only allow yourself to think about ejaculating easily, whenever you want to. Take a few moments before commencing lovemaking with your partner. Visualize a quick, smooth, easy, pleasurable ejaculation. Then during lovemaking, keep thinking and visualizing the same.
Some combination of the 5 things mentioned here will almost certainly yield the desired outcome of being able to ejaculate more quickly or when you want to.